5 Reasons Why You Need A Mental Health Checklist

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I created a Mental Health Checklist for the Gray Matthews Project that can aid in our overall journey to become our best selves. Before I get to why you need this checklist, let me clarify what a checklist is and what a mental health checklist is.

Checklist: A checklist is simply a list of tasks or in this case, responsibilities to be checked off or monitored.

Mental Health Checklist: A mental health checklist is a list of items that can be monitored or referred to, to ensure that we are utilizing healthy practices to holistically care for ourselves.

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Okay, now that we’ve gotten the basics out of the way, here are 5 reasons why you need a Mental Health Checklist.

  1. Having a checklist clearly identifies the tasks or responsibilities that need to be done. This creates an easy and simple system of staying on top of our tasks.
  2. A mental health checklist should encompass all areas of our lives, that means, emotional health, behavioral health, spiritual health, physical health, and relational health because mental health affects our whole lives.
  3. A mental health checklist can help us organize our lives. If the checklist is as holistic as it should be, it will include all areas of our lives. As we do the necessary work of going through the checklist and making changes accordingly, to bring ourselves closer to our best selves, we will find that our lives will shed a lot of unnecessary things, such as relationships, habits, emotions, and behaviors.
  4. A mental health checklist can assist us with getting to know ourselves. We may not realize it, but many people walking around have no idea who they are. Many of us are so uncomfortable in our skins, we do not want to take the time to get to know ourselves because we may not like what we see. A checklist can be utilized subjectively, so the reader can go through the checklist at the reader’s pace. But the reader has to commit to completing the checklist for it to beneficial.
  5. This brings me to my last point of healing. As we work through the checklist and make the changes, we begin to get to know ourselves better. We begin to identify areas of past hurts and vulnerabilities, we begin to find areas for improvement. As we learn about these areas, we can begin the necessary work of healing ourselves and our wounds so that we can become the whole persons that we were meant to be. Being healthier individuals allow us to feel more confident in ourselves and our environments, we begin to feel comfortable in our skins, and we can begin to develop healthier relationships that will us maintain the positivity that we have learnt.

These are five great reasons why we can all benefit from the use of a mental health checklist. Of course, there are more reasons and benefits that manifest themselves as we do the work on ourselves. We must be willing to do the work and we must be willing to be honest with ourselves about what we learn to really benefit from this tool.

The Mental Health Checklist by the Gray Matthews Project is simple yet comprehensive and user-friendly. It is not a test nor a tool for diagnosis. It is a tool to help us learn about ourselves and our decisions; it helps us learn how we can stop making unconscious choices and develop awareness to help us make better choices for ourselves and our lives. Subscribe now and get the Gray Matthews Project’s Mental Health Checklist and begin your journey of self-discovery. ...

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Our Gifts from God

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“But the manifestation of the Spirit is given to every man to profit withal.”

I Corinthians 12:7 KJV

As I have been fasting, God has been focusing me on learning about the gifts that He has given to me. He has tasked me with being accountable to Him about how I steward my gifts. Honestly, prior to starting my spiritual journey, I had never thought of what God wanted me to do. I developed a love of therapy at a young age and decided that I would become a therapist. Throughout the last few weeks, I have been praying about goals that I have set for myself and focusing on the steps to achieve the goals.

But I have found that I keep coming back to stewarding spiritual gifts. If we desire to be aligned with God and His purposes for us, we must first determine what He wants. To do this, we must spend time talking to Him and listening for His responses. His responses may not always be immediate, nor may they come as a direct answer; sometimes, they the responses can be from a friend, and when this happens to me, I find that confirmations of the responses are not far behind.

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In getting to know God as you would any friend, you must take the time to understand how He will speak to you. For me, this has become one of the most awesome things about God. He demonstrates to us how much He knows us by communicating with us in the ways that we each need. I also believe that He does this often so that you begin to recognize His responses. ...

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How Awesome Is Our God?

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This people have I formed for myself; they shall show forth my praise.”

Isaiah 43:21 KJV

I was reading a devotional (I forget which day it was) and after reading it, I just felt amazed. Sometimes, we are so busy with our lives and distractions, we just forget that God really is good all the time. The service that I went to this past Sunday also reinforced those thoughts that I had. We get bogged down with complaining about everything that we never take the chance to just relish all the small and daily miracles that God gives. It rained for two days this weekend and I’m sure everyone, including me, was complaining, and saying…enough of the rain. Then, I was watching the weather and the meteorologists was reporting how much we needed the rain.

I know that sometimes we are just so focused on our lives, and the issues that we are having within them, it is hard to lift our head and minds out of the fog and look at the big picture. So, this post was my reflection to God on his small mercies that I take for granted. Small mercies such as, having a car, having a working car, having a few days of 60-degree weather in the middle of winter, waking up excited about the work that I am doing, and the list goes on and on.

These thoughts were especially on my mind as Lent started today (February 14th). I have seen a lot of the posts on social media that are either using Lent as a joke or social media trend and that just really me of the importance of remembering why we celebrate these holidays in the first place. ...

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What Does God Do With Our Pain?

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“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.”

Isaiah 55: 8 – 9

There are days when it seems like we are all alone in our pain. We feel like no one understands our burdens and the things we are going through. We feel isolated, pained, alone, and hopeless.

A few years back, I felt that way. I felt that my world was falling apart around me and God had chosen to punish me for something and He was not hearing my prayer. That had to be one of the lowest points in my life. The sheer terror of hopelessness breeds every negative feeling that can exist in our minds and in our bodies. I must admit that I stayed in that space for a long time and had no idea how to come out of it.

In times like these, you create a mask for your face and a shell for your outer body. You feel like no one understands and no one ever will.

It took me a long time, a long time, to start to understand that I had a choice in the way thoughts were controlling me. It took a long time to recognize that, yes, I had those thoughts, and they were difficult to deal with, and yes, I did really feel hopeless, but I had to begin to acknowledge the small part of me that wanted a better way. When I hit the lowest moments of my life, I did not know what to do.

Out of sheer frustration and pain, I yelled at God. I told Him how mad I was at him for punishing me. How annoyed I was at Him for his sheer silence in the midst of my pain. I pretty much unloaded my pain onto Him in frustration. The funny thing is I didn’t feel that He was responding back to me, but I noticed that my burden began to feel slightly lighter and just a little lighter the more I unloaded on Him. ...

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Why Do We Need Faith?

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“And we know all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose.”

Romans 8: 28 1 (KJV).

For many of us, this picture above represents many moments for us when we have felt low or lost. We have felt alone, unworthy, unheard, unappreciated, invisible, and everything in kind.

If we could be able to step outside of the pain for even just a moment, we will realize that the biggest pain and trauma that we go through, could be the biggest catalyst in our lives. These unwelcome pains and hurts could be the force of change in our lives. These ‘negative’ things if given the chance, could encourage us to make big changes in our lives.

The most painful things in the moments when we are going through them feel like the things that will end us and end our lives, and just swallow us in unknown depths of despair. The clinician in me wants to remind everyone that everything in life has a season, so do not give in to the urge to make these moments of pain the sum total of our lives. The human in me knows that this makes the trauma feel trivial, this makes the pain seem less than. But the growth in me, who has been there in my own pain and hurts, have learnt that God closes many doors for us. The person of faith in me has learned that when God speaks, and we do not listen, like any parent, He will keep finding ways to get us to listen. The faith in me has learned that God does not cause everything to happen; evil exists, pain exists because we live in a fallen world created by the human choices of Adam and Eve. But though He may not cause everything that happens, He will allow things to happen to help us develop our character. And most importantly, the pain in my hurt hurts Him too; recognizing that because I am made in His image, He feels my pain too. ...

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“But by the grace of God I am what I am: and his grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain…” 1 Corinthians15:10 (KJV).

2018 brings with it, a chance to do things differently. It brings with it a chance to make changes we may have wanted to, but couldn’t. It brings with it a chance of new beginning and a chance to continue self-discovery.

When you think of year 2018 starting, do you feel dread or happiness? Do you experience the feeling of possibilities or the fear/pain of the journey continuing for more months to come?

I want you to know that there is a path for each of us. As we are each imbued with a spirit, there is a path for this spirit to develop. Could 2018 be the year that we are brave enough to begin our exploration of this path? Life will never be fair, and we will never live pain free on earth. But we can still embrace the fact that just as each snowflake is different, so are we different from all who have walked or will walk this earth. Let us take the time to celebrate in that knowledge and recognize how creative God is. And as we are created in His image, we each have something that is waiting for us to create it.

What if we were bold enough to hold onto this fact and show our faith in God and ourselves? What if we could be brave enough to begin to seek out the path that God made for us? Our lives would be transformed in ways we cannot even fathom now.

To go one step further, could we be courageous enough to stop comparing ourselves to others and embrace ourselves, flaws and all? If we spend all our times focusing on others and what they are doing, our comparisons and judgments will extinguish our joy and peace; and cause us to miss our own paths and blessings. And in focusing on comparison, we are indirectly refuting God’s will for our lives. We are effectively telling Him that the path that He has laid out for us is not good enough for us and that we want what others have. We are telling ourselves and the universe that our spirit and energy is not special enough to develop and embrace. We are saying that we are not good enough for the paths aligned to our spirits. ...

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