Black Women Health and Wellness

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Let’s face it…the health and wellness of black women is not a priority of the society that we live in. Black women face the intersection of gender and race minority (double minority). If you are an immigrant, such as myself, you stand in the center of a 3-way minority junction. The term “intersectionalilty” highlights intersections such as these very well for people of color. Health and wellness for black women is an area that is sorely needs more support.

Health and Wellness

How do you ensure health and wellness for a group that is mostly invisible to society? Black women become visible when we are viewed as the “angry, black woman,” “loud and belligerent black woman,” “strong black woman,” “big-bosomed, big-boned, and wise older black woman,” “promiscuous, booty-popping and oversexualized black woman,” and the “rude, disrespectful, and aggressive black woman.” None of these stereotypes are positive and truly represent the dynamic mysticism of black women.

With the cloak of invisibility thrust upon black women, the scarcity of services targeted to and available for black women presents a real social problem for us and society. And, sometimes the quality of services that are available is so meager, it may as well be non-existent. Issues with services available to black women include cost of services, distance to travel to obtain services, quality of services, insurance coverage, stereotypes and stigmas. All present obstacles that need to be overcome to ensure proper access to suitable services. ...

5 Self-care Tips for Mothers Everywhere

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So, in this month – May – we celebrate Mother’s Day in the United States and parts of the Caribbean. Many of us will be heading out to seek out the perfect Mother’s Day presents, scheduling our Mother’s Day specials (brunches, dinners, massages, etc), and generally obsessing about the perfect Mother’s Day for our loved ones. So, as a mother myself, and surrounded by my own mother and mother-in-law, of course, I will be doing the same!

Of course, I had to join the Mother’s Day festivities. What can we say about mothers? They are awesome. We know there are mothers who have this name in roles only. But we have to give thanks for the women in our lives that love us unconditionally and support us. Most of these precious women tend to care for everyone but themselves. Society has taught women that caring for themselves is selfish and inglorious. But, we are here to dispel that myth and remind all the mothers out there that taking time for yourselves is essential to practicing proper mental health. We cannot pour from an empty cup. Period.

To all my black women, we are one of the most neglected groups in the world. Click To Tweet

To all my black women, we are one of the most neglected groups in the world. Black women walk a tight rope not experienced by other women. The tension and stress that black women live with is unparalleled. We tend to get lost in translation in racial issues; in gender issues, we still get lost, and many do not even consider ethnicity. To black women, I say that, “We are enough.” For black mothers, we carry a societal burden that both stiffens our pride and frightens us beyond words. I am here to tell all black mothers that we do not have to suffer in silence. The archetypal strong woman and angry black woman are roles that we do not subscribe to. For we are strong enough to pave our own paths. We seek more than what has been allotted to us, and for this vulnerability is no longer shunned. For without vulnerability, we cannot experience life to its fullest. ...

Dr. Tererai Trent: The Good Life Project Interview

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I was first introduced to Dr. Tererai Trent’s story through an interview on Oprah Winfrey.  In some ways, I saw some of myself in her. An immigrant moving to a new country chasing cherished dreams, held so close to the heart, and finding the courage to chase those dreams. I was so amazed at the things she went through in pursuit of her own dreams, she became an inspiration to me.

Now, I’ve had the immense pleasure and honor of listening to an interview with Dr. Trent on the Good Life Project podcast (@goodlifeproj); Jonathan (@jonathanfields) held such a beautiful interview with Dr. Trent. It was extremely moving and absolutely resonated with me. Dr. Trent is clearly a storyteller and tells her story in a beautiful, sincere, haunting, and passionate manner, you can’t help but be affected.

I first learned about this podcast through my girl, Kryssie, and just loved Jonathan’s calming voice in his interviews. He comes across as a very patient and caring individual in his tone and words to his interviewees. In this interview, I am especially thankful for the thoughtful questions he asked and for allowing Dr. Trent the space to explore her thoughts and her story; this allowed the interview to be exceptionally moving and emotional. The interview really touched a part of me, leading to this special blogpost as it resonated with my own history and dreams.

Dr. Tererai Trent

Her voice is calm and yet emotion-ladened with years of experiences, knowledge, and wisdom and she lays bare gems to help us examine and redefine our lives. This is a woman who has lived a life that has taught many lessons. A black woman who has learned her place in this world and have figured out what her legacy should be and have literally gone after her dream. There are so many generational themes in her words, that I cried listening to her interview. ...

What Does Intersectionality Mean in Mental Health?

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The term intersectionality, coined by Kimberlé Crenshaw, an American civil rights advocate and scholar, describes the overlap of social group categorizations (race, gender, social class, etc) and its relationships to systems of oppression and discrimination.

The term intersectionality as it relates to mental health is important as the term can help minority groups describe our experiences as we navigate our social and political worlds. As Kimberlé noted in her TedTalk, when we are unable to name an issue, we are unable to fix the issue.

Intersectionality and Mental Health

Minority groups already have a clear understanding of what it feels likes to not belong to a dominant culture. We know what it feels like to be unrepresented in certain circles. One of our most basic psychological need is belonging. When we feel like we do not belong to groups, we experience feelings of invisibility, unworthiness, loneliness, and low self-esteem and self-worth. Over prolonged periods, these negative emotions have lasting impacts on our mental health.

The importance of intersectionality is that it recognizes that people do not always only belong to a single minority group. For example, black women experience dual minority status (being black and being woman). Another example is a black lesbian woman; this person would experience a triple minority status (black, lesbian, and woman). Lastly, I’ll use myself as an example. In college, I quickly learnt that I was a triple minority. After much discourse with my African American female friends, I quickly began to understand my social status. I am a triple minority [black, woman, and immigrant (Jamaican)]. ...

5 Lessons I’ve Learnt About Natural Hair

I’ve had permed hair for 15 years. On September 16, I did my big chop. The emotions I’ve been swirling in have been a revelation for me.

The Background

When I was growing up in Jamaica, the kids around me had permed or natural hair. There weren’t braid shops on every corner to get all the different styles of braiding that are available in the US today. If you wanted braids or braids with extensions, you got whatever styles your parents, friends, or family members could do. For some, that was great. For me, it was both good and bad. I could get some styles from my mom but she kept giving me what I deemed “children styles”. By age 14, I was itching to comb my own hair – yes, 14, times were different then, okay maybe, I’m aging myself here, but you get the point. The only problem was that by the time I took over styling my own hair, I began to realize that I had no idea how to care for it. It was just the typical wash and dry with a bun. I got so desperate for something different that I added permanent color to my hair with no idea what to expect. Obviously, this was not the best idea.

At age 18, when I moved to the US, I couldn’t wait to perm my hair to make it more manageable. And for the first year or so, I had an awesome stylist under whom my hair flourished. Then at age 19, I had to have surgery and from then on, my hair has never been the same. At that age, I had to cut most of my hair off which began to change my views of my hair. But for the most part, I relied heavily on various stylists to ‘fix’ my hair. My hair evolution just ranged from braids to perms with not much contribution from me in between. ...

3 Lessons on Black Love

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I first became familiar with the ‘black love’ term when the Obamas became the first family of the US. I didn’t fully understand the need to have a specific term to describe a black couple. The Obamas and the Carters have become the gold standard of black relationships in the US. Maybe that’s because of the preoccupation with social media and the need to find role models that we can identify with.  This creates a certain amount of pressure to adhere to a society-approved relationship model as well as completely undermining those relationships that exists outside of the spotlight and have managed to thrive.

Lessons Learned about Black Love

1)     I’ve heard my friends say that once we reach our 30s, finding a black man who doesn’t have a child is basically unheard of.  Does this mean that we will then have to settle because that’s what’s available? If that’s the case, in what other ways do we settle in our relationships? For me, I have found that I dumbed myself down because I found that the previous men I had dated were not always on my level intellectually and/or emotionally. So, I wonder how many other women have done this and how often? TLC sang that they required plenty conversation with their sex, a practice which I subscribe to.

2)     Black women seemed to have lowered our standards for our relationships. Why is this necessary? Should we not expect our black men to be better for us because we are worth it? Every day, I see black men walking around with their underpants hanging out of their pants and I can’t understand how as women we have accepted this? I appreciate some swag but is there no limit to what we will accept? And this is just one area where I question our standards. What are our boundaries for our relationships and partners? I’ve learnt that setting boundaries and standards will allow my relationships to flourish. I struggle with effective boundaries as does everyone. But we must be willing to consider the other partner’s personal space, feelings, and needs. This is, of course, not always easy. But to have healthy relationships, we must learn to be mindful of these things. ...