Do you want to know how to live a committed life?
Do you want to improve the quality of your life?
In working with clients, I’ve come to realize that people are afraid of commitment. People are afraid to go all in for a goal or a dream. They are afraid that they will fail and that things will fall apart. People want guarantees that when they chase after a dream, the outcome will be how they envisioned it.
But, that’s not how life works.
You will reap what you sow, but only God knows the future. Therefore, only God can guarantee the exact outcome. People who have chased after their dreams will tell you that you should focus on enjoying the journey rather than focusing only on the destination.
Because when you arrive at the destination, it will not look how you pictured it. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing!
We can plant, and we can water our dreams, but only God gives the increase.
People are afraid to go all in for a goal or a dream. They are afraid that they will fail and that things will fall apart. Click To Tweet
What is a commitment?
So, if you’ve decided that you want to know how to live a committed a life, you must first understand what a committed life is.
First, let’s look at what a commitment is.
When you commit to something or someone, you are binding yourself to that thing or person. You have made a pledge, a binding contract, an unbreakable promise to something or someone with regards to a particular action. For example, you commit to your relationship or you commit to completing a project by its deadline.
Secondly, you are also expressing your understanding that your commitment or binding promise has consequences if you were to go back on your word.
Lastly, when you commit, you have an expectation of where that commitment will lead, even if you don’t know exactly what the outcome will look like.
When you commit to something or someone, you are binding yourself to that thing or person. Click To Tweet
So, what is a committed life?
When you decide to live a committed life, you are deciding on how you want your life to turn out.
For example, you may say, “I am committing to a plant-based diet,” or “I am committing to paying off all my credit card debt in the next year 18 months.”
Each person must decide what areas of their lives need to be transformed so that they can live their most abundant life. However, once you have made this decision, you must commit to following through on your goal. To do this, you must create a strategy to achieve your goal in addition to measurements to track your progress.
For example, I have committed to building a life that is location independent. Therefore, I have laid out a 1, 2, 3, 5, and 10-year goals plan to track this goal. I have identified markers for me to measure how I am progressing with my goal and made room in my strategy for revisions to my plan. This is one of my goals that will show that I have committed to the values that I believe in.
Can you identify anything in your life that you have committed yourself to?
When you decide to live a committed life, you are deciding on how you want your life to turn out. Click To Tweet
How Can You Live a Committed Life?
- Before you commit to something, you must first take the time to identify what matters to you. You must do the internal work to determine what you value in life and what you are willing to sacrifice for the things that you value.
- Second, I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase, or a variation of it, that “nothing is truly free.” Everything has a cost; it’s a matter of if you paid the cost or someone else paid it.
Living a committed life is no different. Should you choose to build a committed life, you will begin to release things that do not serve your bigger purpose – i.e., living a committed life.
If you have relationships and friends that do not serve your version of a committed life, you will no longer be able to sustain those relationships because you cannot serve two masters. You will drift away in your relationships or you will begin breaking your promise of building a committed life.
People often glorify success and achievement, but they never take the time to examine what was the cost of that success and achievement.
Therefore, if you choose to place commitment as one of your highest values in life, then mediocrity, fear, disorder, neglect, and negligence must be relinquished because these qualities are the opposite of commitment.
- Third, whatever you’ve committed yourself to, this will influence your thoughts and behaviors. The people around you may start telling you that you’ve changed, this will test your commitment. Is your desire to be liked by those around you or is your desire to achiee the goal that you’ve committed yourself to? Is your level of commitment to your goal strong enough to keep you following through?
- Lastly, when moments of difficulties arise – and they surely will – and you begin to weigh the cost of your commitment, is the thing you committed yourself to worth it? Is it worth delaying gratification? Is it worth holding onto the commitment with discipline knowing that the end result and its gratification will be even sweeter because you didn’t give up or give in because things got hard?