Black Mental Health, Mental Health

5 Ways to Improve Your Mental Health

November 14, 2019
Laughing Black Woman

To improve your mental health, you must first recognize that mental health is not separate from other areas of health. As the Bible, James Allen, therapy, and countless others have taught us, we are what we think.


Beliefs feed habits

Your beliefs, values, thoughts, and emotions are manifested in the way you behave, the practices and activities that you engage in, and the discipline and responsibility you either choose to or choose not to uphold.

If you want to improve your life and your health, then consider your consumption. Consider the things that you put into your body physically, consider the content that you listen to, and consider the people that you surround yourself with.

If you want to improve your life and your health, then consider your consumption. Think about the things that you spend your time listening. Click To Tweet

Remember that you get out of your body what you first put in it. If you feed your body and soul crappy and miserable content, you will feel miserable, unhappy, and unsatisfied all the time. But take the time to nourish your body and your soul, and your mood improves, your body functions at a more optimal level, and you will have more positivity to pour into others.


Check out these 5 ways to improve your mental health

  • Monitor your self-talk.

Many of us would never allow others to speak to us the way that we speak to ourselves. People say things to themselves that would be considered mean if said to others. They use words to describe themselves that demean and belittle us.  are often unkind and uncaring when talking to ourselves.


  • Choose your friends wisely.

Too many of us take friendships too lightly. A part of that problem is that the term ‘friend’ has been loosened so much. Many of us have become unclear on the different levels and stages of friendships. The lines of friendships have become blurred because of all the access on social media. People have started confusing being a follower of someone on social media as being friends with that person.

You should choose your friends in your inner circle with great care. The people that you reveal your true feelings, fears, visions, dreams, and so on should be people that you trust deeply. Trust is earned and built. Remember that people in your circle influence you more than you influence them. So, all their energies, habits, and behaviors are reflected in you, which is why the saying, “Show me your friends, and I’ll tell you who you are,” is such an important and still relevant statement.


  • Be intentional.

Time is the most precious commodity on this planet. It is the one resource that none of us can create or manipulate. Yet, we spend much of our time living as if time is infinite.

When you decide to become intentional about how you spend your time and who you spend your time with, your life will become so much simpler.

You will not feel the need to say yes to things that you do not care about. No longer will you be filled with obligation and guilt because you are doing things that you could care less about or spending time with people who do not care about your well-being.

You will also become concerned about growth and progress. By simply being intentional about how you spend your time, you will be more focused and aware of how the time is passing by and you will no longer want to be stuck in the same place emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually, or financially.


  • Happiness is a choice.

It is not a destination. Happiness is a journey. The feeling of happiness can b not provided by any external source. It is an internal, personal decision that each person has to make for themselves. It requires each person to take responsibility and become accountable for themselves and their lives.

Happiness is also fleeting because life is full of seasons. Life has a rhythm and the currents of life will always ebb and flow. There’ll be good days and not-so-perfect days; this is why we have a range of emotions to express how we deal with life in its fullness.

Here’s a tip. In my own personal growth, I have made the commitment to focus on joy instead of happiness. Happiness is a feeling that ranges from feeling good to excited among a whole host of synonyms that are temporary lasting because they are often based on external circumstances.

But joy is subtler and longer-lasting. It is more stable and more fulfilling because it takes a long time to cultivate it. Appreciating joy over happiness demonstrates emotional growth because you’ve done your personal and emotional work to appreciate who you are, who you are not, what your values are, what you will not stand for, and there’s a spiritual aspect to it because it connects you to who you are in God, on this planet, and in this time and space. It takes a lot of emotional work to cultivate this knowledge and foundation and this is what makes it more lasting.


  • No is a full sentence.

The thing about the word ‘No’ is that it requires people to stand firmly in their discomfort. When people say to no to others, there tends to be this expectation by others that people should explain why they said no. This then leads to an uncomfortable silence waiting for the explanation that people do not have to give. And many people feel pressured to explain themselves by this uncomfortable silence.

The reality is that we all have become so enmeshed and have neglected developing appropriate boundaries that we have these unfair expectations of access and rights to others.

It’s simple. The word ‘No’ makes a complete sentence. The tone of the way the word is said may imply a question or hesitation. However, that is usually because people feel so uncomfortable simply answering, No.

I will agree that for many people, it takes practice because with developing this habit will come a certain amount of embolden power that we have either lost or neglected. But, this is a habit that we can develop and utilize effectively.

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  • Reply Jay November 14, 2019 at 4:12 pm

    Coming along quite well, keep striving!

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