“And we know all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose.”
Romans 8: 28 1 (KJV).
For many of us, this picture above represents many moments for us when we have felt low or lost. We have felt alone, unworthy, unheard, unappreciated, invisible, and everything in kind.
If we could be able to step outside of the pain for even just a moment, we will realize that the biggest pain and trauma that we go through, could be the biggest catalyst in our lives. These unwelcome pains and hurts could be the force of change in our lives. These ‘negative’ things if given the chance, could encourage us to make big changes in our lives.
The most painful things in the moments when we are going through them feel like the things that will end us and end our lives, and just swallow us in unknown depths of despair. The clinician in me wants to remind everyone that everything in life has a season, so do not give in to the urge to make these moments of pain the sum total of our lives. The human in me knows that this makes the trauma feel trivial, this makes the pain seem less than. But the growth in me, who has been there in my own pain and hurts, have learnt that God closes many doors for us. The person of faith in me has learned that when God speaks, and we do not listen, like any parent, He will keep finding ways to get us to listen. The faith in me has learned that God does not cause everything to happen; evil exists, pain exists because we live in a fallen world created by the human choices of Adam and Eve. But though He may not cause everything that happens, He will allow things to happen to help us develop our character. And most importantly, the pain in my hurt hurts Him too; recognizing that because I am made in His image, He feels my pain too.
While He is present with me through it all, He alone can bring good and prosperity out of the darkness. He only needs to open one door.
Romans 8:28 has become my favorite verse for this reason. It is hard for me to step outside of the pain and see any good, but He can look down the road in my future and know that if I get through this moment, the strength I will need for the next battle will have been forged in me.
What are you struggling with today? What pain feels like it is eating you alive? I encourage you to hold on just a little bit longer. I don’t know who may find solace in my words of saving grace, but I implore you to pick up a Bible and read Romans 8:28 because His words may just be the balm to that wound that you’ve been waiting on.