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January 2018


What Does God Do With Our Pain?

January 28, 2018

Photo by Sam Burriss on Unsplash

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.”

Isaiah 55: 8 – 9

There are days when it seems like we are all alone in our pain. We feel like no one understands our burdens and the things we are going through. We feel isolated, pained, alone, and hopeless.

A few years back, I felt that way. I felt that my world was falling apart around me and God had chosen to punish me for something and He was not hearing my prayer. That had to be one of the lowest points in my life. The sheer terror of hopelessness breeds every negative feeling that can exist in our minds and in our bodies. I must admit that I stayed in that space for a long time and had no idea how to come out of it.

Black Mental Health

Stepping Outside of Our Comfort Zone

January 24, 2018

Sometimes there are things that we really want out of life, but we are too afraid to go after it. I believe it was Will Smith who said that he realized that “the best things in life are on the other side of fear.” One of the lessons that I have experienced over the last year or so, is that to gain something, you have to lose something; on the flip side, to have something different, you have to do something different.

For many of us, there are things that we want to achieve, whether in our personal lives or professional lives, but we go after these goals from a scarcity mindset. That means that we focus on all the things we do not have, all the things we do not know, all the things that we think must happen before we go after this goal. And if we approach our goals from this mindset, we will have talked ourselves out of the urge, the desire, and the energy that we had to go after this goal. The truth is that in pursuing a desire or a goal, there will always be a chasm between us and that goal. This is where the growth happens. This chasm is the journey. This chasm is the difference of the person you were before you began pursuing your goal and the person you will become after reaching your goal. Every goal goes through this process. The journey is where we develop ourselves, develop our skills, develop our knowledge, and practice our skills and revise them.

Black Mental Health

The Value of Change

January 10, 2018

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Change is the most constant thing about life. It is probably also the most feared thing in life for many of us. Change brings about a wide range of emotions for many of us. Fear sets in many ways: fear of failing; fear of missing out; fear of being judged by others; fear of letting ourselves down.

The list of fears is far-reaching and never-ending. It is easy to get caught up in our fears, but we do not realize that fear is there to protect us. It is there to help us scan for danger and ultimately take the safe route. This response is built into our brain and has withstood the test of time. The thing is that society and life has evolved, and fear can now become paralyzing as the ‘safe’ route is not always the ‘best’ route. The thing about fear is that as soon as we manage to get enough courage to work through one fear, another 5 is created in its place. Fear is never gone. That’s why there is bravery and courage. That’s why being brave and being courageous does not require us to be fearless. It just means that there is something other than fear that is of value to us. The question comes down to which one has more value to you?


Why Do We Need Faith?

January 6, 2018

Photo by Ian Espinosa on Unsplash

“And we know all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose.”

Romans 8: 28 1 (KJV).

For many of us, this picture above represents many moments for us when we have felt low or lost. We have felt alone, unworthy, unheard, unappreciated, invisible, and everything in kind.

If we could be able to step outside of the pain for even just a moment, we will realize that the biggest pain and trauma that we go through, could be the biggest catalyst in our lives. These unwelcome pains and hurts could be the force of change in our lives. These ‘negative’ things if given the chance, could encourage us to make big changes in our lives.

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