2018 Goals

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Goal setting is not a new concept, especially at the end of a year. Many people will start to forget their 2018 goals but by mid-late January. The motivation for those goals will have dissipated. Oftentimes we see goal setting as this elaborate thing to do; we see it as this huge task that once we have completed it, we get lulled by the feeling of accomplishment and then nothing happens after that.
Goal setting does not have to be a major task. We can set goals for anything that we want to accomplish in any area of our lives. We set goals to help keep us on the path to the things we want to achieve. We set goals so that we can measure our progress towards the things we want to achieve. We create actionable goals that are realistic and achievable. Most of all, we set goals that are meaningful to us; that means that there are some emotions attached to them. Long after the high of setting goals have worn off, we will still need motivation to keep us moving towards to our goals.

Motivation – Push/Pull

It is extremely important that we do not create goals from a deficit mindset (fear, scarcity, avoidance, etc). We must not set goals that force us to do something. We must not create practices that force us to achieve a goal because this will not last.
To be clear, the push motivation can be very effective. However, the “push motivation” does not last because it focuses on avoidance. It focuses on the thing that you are trying to avoid, for example a physical pain, a health issue, a bad relationship, or a conversation with a loved one. But what happens when that thing that you are trying to avoid disappears? What happens to your motivation then? Are you setting a goal to lose weight? What will keep you on track after you have achieved your desired weight goal? This is why many people revert back to their old behaviors and habits and do not understand why they cannot maintain the change they are trying to make. ...


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“But by the grace of God I am what I am: and his grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain…” 1 Corinthians15:10 (KJV).

2018 brings with it, a chance to do things differently. It brings with it a chance to make changes we may have wanted to, but couldn’t. It brings with it a chance of new beginning and a chance to continue self-discovery.

When you think of year 2018 starting, do you feel dread or happiness? Do you experience the feeling of possibilities or the fear/pain of the journey continuing for more months to come?

I want you to know that there is a path for each of us. As we are each imbued with a spirit, there is a path for this spirit to develop. Could 2018 be the year that we are brave enough to begin our exploration of this path? Life will never be fair, and we will never live pain free on earth. But we can still embrace the fact that just as each snowflake is different, so are we different from all who have walked or will walk this earth. Let us take the time to celebrate in that knowledge and recognize how creative God is. And as we are created in His image, we each have something that is waiting for us to create it.

What if we were bold enough to hold onto this fact and show our faith in God and ourselves? What if we could be brave enough to begin to seek out the path that God made for us? Our lives would be transformed in ways we cannot even fathom now.

To go one step further, could we be courageous enough to stop comparing ourselves to others and embrace ourselves, flaws and all? If we spend all our times focusing on others and what they are doing, our comparisons and judgments will extinguish our joy and peace; and cause us to miss our own paths and blessings. And in focusing on comparison, we are indirectly refuting God’s will for our lives. We are effectively telling Him that the path that He has laid out for us is not good enough for us and that we want what others have. We are telling ourselves and the universe that our spirit and energy is not special enough to develop and embrace. We are saying that we are not good enough for the paths aligned to our spirits. ...

Have You Ever Experienced A Spiritual Awakening?

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“This people have I formed for myself; they shall show forth my praise.” Isaiah 43:21 (KJV).

Spiritual growth is essential as we all seek to understand why we were placed on this planet at this particular moment in time. For myself, I was pondering these questions to myself repeatedly until I had to admit that I did not have the answers. I began to realize that I would never have these answers because I was not able to see the big picture. My view is limited to my past experiences and the present moments I am moving through. I have no understanding or knowledge of what the future holds, and I have no true view of the vast past experiences that have shaped this planet.

In recognizing my own shallowness and limitations, I began to recognize that I am not the creator of myself. I have no idea where I was before I came to this planet, nor truly where I will dwell after this body goes to the ground. The truth is like, so many others, I too, want to embrace immortality. I, too, want to know that there is more after death. If you believe what science has taught – and I think we can see this in our thoughts and emotions as well – that energy never dies and is just transferred, you can understand that the soul does not die when this body goes to the ground. So, for myself, I often ponder where was my spirit before this planet and where will it be after I leave this planet?

If you are wondering do you have a soul, the answer is yes. We each have one. We all have thoughts, emotions, sensations in our bodies, and if you dig deep enough and allow yourself to be still, you will find that there is a part of you that whispers to you and that yearns to be connected to something greater than man. Therefore, the holistic approach to wellness focuses on the mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects. True wellness must embrace all the parts of us. From my earlier post, I started to understand that those questions I was dealing with was my spiritual awakening. I was questioning why I exist at this particular moment, in the vastness of this planet and people, is my life of any significance, and what is the job I was here to do? ...

Saving Grace

“When pride cometh, then cometh shame: but with the lowly is wisdom.” Proverbs 11: 2 (KJV).

About a year ago, I noticed that I was feeling lost in many ways. I sat at my desk at work and worked on autopilot, barely engaged in the work I was doing, and counting the hours from start to finish. This went on for a few months and the feelings kept getting stronger. From the moment I sat down at work, I would begin to ask myself these questions:
“Is this it?”
“Would this be all I did for the rest of my days?”
“Is this all I would do with my life on this planet?”
“Is this what my life amounted to? Working on other people’s dreams and goals while I withered away inside?’
“What was the difference between the people I worked for and me?”

These and similar questions floated in and out my mind, day in and day out. I couldn’t understand what was happening to me. I started to have conversations with close friends and realized they too had had similar thoughts and ideas and wanted to make changes in their lives. But for me, I realized that I wasn’t sure how to go about making those changes. So, I decided to educate myself by reading more. I started reading more non-fiction books about people who wanted to share truths that they had discovered about life. I started with some good books like As a Man Thinketh by James Allen and Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu and continued from there. However, I began to realize that there was something still missing.

Many of these books encouraged turning inward and examining your thoughts and emotions, and in doing so, I started to realize that this was not the whole picture. I was neglecting the most integral part of being human. The one thing these kinds of books teach is that our thoughts, emotions, and bodies operate on vibrations; this means that they have energy. Our thoughts and emotions may seem one dimensional to us but they are not; we express our energies into the world and receive back energy. At some point in our lives, we begin to realize (whether we want to accept this or not) that we are created in God’s image which includes having a spirit. It is the thing that separates us from other animals. The truth is that we are all spiritual beings because of how God made us. So, when we neglect the most important part of us, we will always feel like there is something missing. Because in all actuality, there is. We are not growing spiritually. ...