Goal setting is not a new concept, especially at the end of a year. Many people will start to forget their 2018 goals but by mid-late January. The motivation for those goals will have dissipated. Oftentimes we see goal setting as this elaborate thing to do; we see it as this huge task that once we have completed it, we get lulled by the feeling of accomplishment and then nothing happens after that.
Goal setting does not have to be a major task. We can set goals for anything that we want to accomplish in any area of our lives. We set goals to help keep us on the path to the things we want to achieve. We set goals so that we can measure our progress towards the things we want to achieve. We create actionable goals that are realistic and achievable. Most of all, we set goals that are meaningful to us; that means that there are some emotions attached to them. Long after the high of setting goals have worn off, we will still need motivation to keep us moving towards to our goals.
Motivation – Push/Pull
It is extremely important that we do not create goals from a deficit mindset (fear, scarcity, avoidance, etc). We must not set goals that force us to do something. We must not create practices that force us to achieve a goal because this will not last.
To be clear, the push motivation can be very effective. However, the “push motivation” does not last because it focuses on avoidance. It focuses on the thing that you are trying to avoid, for example a physical pain, a health issue, a bad relationship, or a conversation with a loved one. But what happens when that thing that you are trying to avoid disappears? What happens to your motivation then? Are you setting a goal to lose weight? What will keep you on track after you have achieved your desired weight goal? This is why many people revert back to their old behaviors and habits and do not understand why they cannot maintain the change they are trying to make.