I have found that many clients are either unaware of the little child that exists within them or feel alone in their belief of the existence of the little kid within them. So, to be very clear: We all have a little child within us. No one is exempt from this rule. We may grow up and become distanced from our little ones but they exist within us daily. Oftentimes, if we are unaware of them, they have probably been in control of us and our lives for some time. Growing up makes us aware of our own judgments, the judgments of others, and we become bogged down by responsibilities that add to our fears and judgments. For many of us, this dims our ability to view and connect with the little child inside.
But we can change this. We can reconnect with our inner kids and even heal them. In turn, this can help us heal our present selves. As we learn about the traumas and pains that we experienced as children, we can see how these themes and lessons have influenced our lives – both consciously and unconsciously – and we can learn to make changes to our lives that help us to live more fulfilling and rewarding lives.
1. Laugh more. Laughter is good for all of us. It improves our immune systems, floods our bodies with endorphins, relieves stress, and reduces tension in our bodies. If we are laughing, we are in the moment and present in our environments, rather than stressing about the past or the future. It means that we are spending time experiencing emotions and for that moment, we might even experience freedom. As kids, we laugh freely and experience the emotions that come with laughter. However, to be able experience the freedom of laughter in adulthood, we must be able to let go of judgment and shame.